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How to Deal with Name Calling?

adverse childhood experiences or ACEs

As kids, we hear others and ourselves being called names that can sometimes hurt and most of us we deal with it but did it really go away?

Is it a form of bullying and does this come from that name-caller being a silent victim of a traumatic event, aka ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences)?

He Called Me a Redneck!

Pfft. That’s water off a duck’s back.

The pain & hurt that I once carried over the past 4 decades had created a tough exterior so nothing could hurt me again! 

ACEs – Adverse Childhood Experiences

adverse childhood experiences or ACEs

This is when a young life grows up with emotional scarring from experiencing traumatic events and sadly, most of the reactions to these experiences are subconscious and will reveal themselves when as an adult.

Look it up online! ‘ACEs’

Statistics show that approximately 70% of children will have more than 3 of the 10 most prevalent ACEs. And just quickly, without any serious thinking, I know of some people with 9, 8, 5, and 4 ACEs. 

So which group are you in?

If you have been fortunate enough to be in the other 30% chances are you will one day, be involved (in at least one part of your life) with someone who has experienced some of these events as a younger person.

Most of us believe that there’s nothing we can do about it and just deal with it as best as possible but that’s NOT correct!

There are things that can be done that will have you smiling and enjoying life with friends and family, in work, or your life in general!   AKA ‘Stopping to smell the flowers’

It’s up to you.

A Technique to Overcome Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)

adverse childhood experiences or ACEs

Here’s a simple and easy practice to implement just to get you started.

(Remember, though… Rome wasn’t built in a day and you’ve been subconsciously permitting these emotional memories to be a burden on you for years and decades.) 

So be patient and give yourself time because you are deserving, plus this may seem a little foreign to you.

  • Set a timer so you won’t be distracted wondering when your time’s up.
  • Sit or lie down in a quiet, comfortable place where you won’t be disturbed. 
  • Allow 10 minutes (mornings are usually best) to take deep, slow breaths and focus on the air going into your lungs, hold 15-30 seconds and then exhale. Then repeat.
  • If your mind wanders, just bring it back. Keep focusing on your breathing and if you wish to breathe a little lighter, that’s ok as long as you keep focus on the activity of breathing.
  • If 10 minutes is too hard, start with 5.

That’s it!  

This simple and easy technique is a way to relax the mind, which is so beneficial when practised regularly.

Before long and with a set daily routine, you too can be like FERDINAND the bull.😊💜

ferdinand the bull

Of course, there are plenty more of these easy and simple techniques that can be added to assist with breaking down the barriers and clearing limiting beliefs.

Want to know more?

I have been interviewed on multiple podcasts (see below).


To talk more with ways I can help, please feel free to reach out to me.

After 55 years of living in a dark void the answer to the way out was so simple and I would now like to see everyone be familiar with these simple and safe steps to emotional freedom!


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